Why people have affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with problems, cause sadness, and other problems. In addition you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness thing, money, age dissimilarity, faith upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, discteet married dating.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affairs. I suppose typically though it is just the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the wish on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your spouse or anybody else? You would need to reduce the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, colossal really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your finances are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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